Bill Brady   7/11/18 This page is being written to aid me in my fathering of this family.

• It is not for general circulation.
• If it has been sent to you because you and I are in father / son relationship.
• And I want for you to understand family.
• And to become family.

We are a house.

• With Jane and myself as fathers.
• Jane is our founding father.
• She is my father too.
• I am in relationship with Jane both as her son & as her father.

You are in relationship with me as a son. 

• You can acknowledge a person as your father.
• But not be in relationship to them as a father.
• And there are levels of that relationship.

Fathers and emerging fathers in this house currently know both Jane and myself. 

• As we grow it will not always be that way.
• We won’t be able to father everyone by relationship.
• Most will have their intimate fathering relationship with one of our sons.
• With one of you.

We are now learning what it means to have sons begin to father in this house.

• Jane and I have let go and let sons begin to father.
• Not just facilitation, but active fathering.
• By intimate relationship.

Most sons need intimate relationship with a father in order to grow into sonship.

• Then to move into and grow into fathering.
• Then to move into and grow into fathering fathers.

A few don’t need this intimate relationship with a father.

•  Those few have destiny to go ahead as forerunners of forerunners.
• These few are designed to not need that relationship.
• They get what they need from Father alone.
• There is no one ahead of them to father them.
• So they are able to forerun for the forerunners.

The rest of us need a combination.

• Of Fathering from Father.
• And fathering from fathers.
• It’s a balance for each of us.

It must not become old wineskin or pastoral. 

• A father is not a covering for a son.
• A father is not over a son.
• A father is under a son facilitating that son into sonship.

The son does their own personal journey on their own.

• With only that input that is necessary from the father.
• Nothing more.
• Nothing less.
• Some sons need more.
• Some less.
• If the father gives more than needed, then the son may become dependent.
• If the father gives less than what is needed, then the son may not launch out.
• The goal is to produce an independent son who has confident faith in Father.

The same process applies when it comes to moving out into fathering.

• The right balance of relationship is needed.
• From a father to a son to facilitate the son moving into fathering.
• Encouragement and availability.
• Counsel.
• Every father will find the balance with each son.

And again when the new father begins to move into fathering fathers.

• Every step of the way the father is available to the son.
• And the father / son relationship continues to develop into something new.
• Based on the current need of the son for fathering.
• And there is a new balance of fathering / Fathering .
• Fathers always point sons to Father.

Along with this developing father / son relationship is responsibility.

• Sons who begin fathering are taking on responsibility.
• Not for sons, but for fathering sons.
• Fathers who are fathering fathers are responsible for that fathering.
• But they are not responsible for fathering the sons of those fathers.

Think of this in terms of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob.

• They all have Abraham for their father.  (So do we.)
• They are all part of Abraham’s house.  (So are we.)
• They all receive from Abraham as a father.
• But Abraham only actively fathered Isaac.
• And Abraham is only responsible for his fathering of Isaac.
• Isaac is only responsible for his fathering of Jacob.

Each of us is only responsible for fathering first generation sons.

• Our grandsons are fathered by our sons.
• At the same time that we are fathering new first generation sons.

This explains the dynamics and the nature of our relationships within a house.